ASSUME mean accept as truth without checking; dalam bahasa mudah TERIMA AUTA SEBAGAI FAKTA...most of assuming biz nie lebih pada auta ...kenapa??? sebab kita more appreciate on judging the sitution then interested to know the actual condition. Ini lah sikap yang ada pada manusia yang sometimes totally not worth.. esp if the occassion really impact u on your choice of decision.
Kenapa I share this??? Let share a piece of situation.....In a relationship...for sure u nak the first people that u sharing your bad and happiness to be your soul mate. Tapi what if dalam relationship dan kebatasan ruang and masa perkara tu jadi up side down. Lebih-lebih lagi kalau your partner tu jenis jejaka malaya yang sukar meluahkan .....u pun jadi macam pungguk rindu kan bulan...or kadang-kadang u rasa siapa u di mata dia.....up to one point u rasa macam sampah and tak dihargai...sbb u want it to be real tapi....hanya u je yang rasa macam tu ....where at another side more to surprise value?
What if ....u bertunang hari nie...esok your soul mate(kekasih hati) datang rumah u n meet your parents.And the same time he didn't notice u dah jadi tunang orang??? Klu u kat situasi nie apa u buat? Add on dia tak contact u hampir 6 bulan...sampai u rasa dia x appreciated u at All; tapi dalam doa u still want him to be your soul mate.
Yang paling parah kalau dia datang tu...kebetulan hari raya dan u tak pasti dia datang to ziarah u or intent to meet your parents to move forwards in the relationship......tambah malang lagi bila dia datang tu terserempak pulak ngan future in law u and your fionce...hebatkan!!!!
Dilebihkan lagi bila u excited he is coming back to move forward the relationship to next level....masa tu i rasa u mesti dah sampai tahap x sedar diri yang semalam u officially dah jadi tunang orang.... tapi whatever it is this is just the situation for sharing :)
Dalam keadaan nie...mesti u hardly define your choice....inilah masanya En ASSUME datang berlenggang-lenggang and menari di depan mata u....lebih-lebih lagi bila u do consider your choice ...tak nak proceed the present engagement.....maka berlakukan perbualan yang meliputi ASSUME biz...esp if u says u want to call-off the present engagement...datanglah teori-teori dari parents u yang mengatakan jangan merepek tak pernah dibuat dek keturanan kita...lebih2 lagi kalau in between your relationship ada situasi he abundance u closely 6 months......Apa choice yang u ada selain stick to the situation that u attached.
Mummy will create the situation to convince u that if in the relationship he can abundance u...definetly he will do the same after married ....yang mana semua tu jadi real imaginary dalam brain u.....
Walhal orang tu x contact u sebab commitment kerja... dia datang hari raya tu tu express his intention politely to move on the relationship to the next level....since we consider assuming is more practical in our life...we didn't consider an explaination....zalimkan...jatuh hukuman tanpa beri ruang untuk orang membela diri.....
Tapi hardly says i memang ter impact dengan story tu....i definetly educate myself and family...do not ASSUME coz it will impact u beyond your expectation...More important understand your relationships before u decide to make up theory on it....
Supaya x tersilap langkah always gives chance to explain in any situation walaupun u dah pasti andaian u benar belaka....at least andaian will change to facts.
But i belief Mistake on Assume will make you more collective in the knowledge of Judging situation....so let's stop ASSUME asked for an explaination.
Never too late to starts....
I totally learned on the ASSUME biz...
XOXO
simfonitinta
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